I realize I'm resurrecting a dead thread here, but I got a month behind on E-mail, so.... > I'm kind of bothered by groups like this... I want to game with people I > want to hang out with outside the game. This was part of the reason my last gaming group fell apart. It was a great group. We were all playing GURPS, and all liked the game. I think we were having fun at it as well. However, one of the players dropped out, suddenly, without warning. I asked him about it, and he gave exactly this reason. It was true: our group was only getting together to game, although we did have some E-mail contact occasionally which wasn't game related. But this one guy wanted to game with people who were his friends as well as his "gamer friends." (Then I got busy getting ready to move across the country, and moved, and so far as I know the group has not gotten together again since.) I understand your point of view (and this other guy's), but my perspective is that so long as you enjoy spending time with these people, even if it is only for gaming, go for it. I do this in lots of ways. In times past I've done a whole lot of community theatre. I had friends there-- but I'd never see them outside of the context of a rehearsal, performance, or other theatre event. So it didn't seem terribly unnatural to have gamer friends I only saw when gaming. Yes, it would be great if they were friends I would just hang out with as well, but our hobby is so small that I was just happy to have found a good group of people I enjoyed hanging out with in the context of a game. Now, I don't have a live group at all.... I'm not sure I'd have time for it if I did. (Of course, that's what I said before this other group started up, which met about once a month.) I play a fair amount online, though, in one chat game and in a few PBEM games. I like to think that some of the people there are friends, although I've only met one of them face-to-face. -Rob ---------------------------------------------------------------- GAMERS Home Page: http://www.phoenyx.net/gamers/
